Couples who desire change in their relationship can look forward to:
- Rebuilding intimacy and maintaining connectedness
- Recognizing and changing destructive habits for a more satisfying relationship
- Gaining new tools to better manage conflict
- Restoring trust and respect in your relationship
- Recovering from infidelity
I have come to believe that our committed relationship and marriage can be one of the most powerful vehicles for growth and change. There is greater potential for healing within your primary relationship than any other relationship you might have over the course of your life. However, the longer we live life together, and the longer we remain in close proximity to one another, the more our “buttons” can be uncovered and triggered.
Whether your relationship is in crisis, just beginning, or is longstanding and has lost its passion, I help couples to create and maintain a relationship that serves as a source of nourishment, protection, and inspiration. However, in order to create this kind of relationship, partners must be able to see each other clearly, without being clouded by the distorted lens of their and their partner’s childhood. I support couples in understanding how their childhood has impacted their relationship with their partner as well as how their partner’s childhood shows up in the relationship.
Once partners begin to understand their own history as well as their partner’s they can become each other’s allies and support. With insight and experience, defensiveness and self-preservation are replaced with compassion and generosity. All couples have conflict. That is a normal experience of living life together. However, as couples gain a better understanding of what is actually happening with each other, I can help them begin to learn the skills, tools, actions and behaviors to support one another and strengthen the relationship. Then being a couple becomes enjoyable and fulfilling and life is experienced as a shared journey.
